Hi Gargy,

I am doing better thankyou.

I do know what your are going thru with your known donor in a way. Up until now I have been using an anonymous donor. This was not my first choice. I know for me its quite different from you as I am single. My choice is for my child to know their donor father.

My known donor decided long after I started this long journey. He was bloodtested etc and frozen 6mths ago, he is now 'cooked' so to speak. He is also single. We have had many many long and involved conversations and emails with regards to the future and his role in the childs life. See with me - I want his involvement. Although I have some frozen embies left, I have chosen to do a whole fresh cycle (yes can you believe I am volunteering for 2 needles a day again!!) so I can use his 'stuff'.

Obviously, your scenario is quite different and difficult. I wonder if you are still waitlisted for a donor. I was so disheartened when I was waitlisted - but it took less then 10mths. Also...did u know that some clinics import the 'stuff' from the states so there is no waitlist..?? Anyway..whatever the scenario - it's all so so hard..

Marg - been thinking of you..how are you doing?