Hey Marg,

I have lots of reasons for preferring a known donor over unknown. See..not sure if you know this but a donor is always a donor in the eyes of the law. He doesnt get put on the birth certificate and has absolutely no jurisdiction within the childs life. Even if something were to happen to me, the child would be left in the care of my sister should I specify in my will - he has no say as in he is not legally recognised as the legal father. This obviously is only the case if there is no 'sex' to create the child.
I made it clear to him that I would rather have an anonymous donor then a known one who has no interest in the child - I am always thinking how the child will feel later down the track. He has no financial responsibility. Should he want to help or buy the child clothes/books etc he is most welcome..he said he has every intention of this. I know he will be a rather active father figure - well as much or little as we agree later and I would like this for my child, remembering again that at no time will he be legally recognised so the ball is in my court. I know he will be a good dad and wants to see the child weekly minimum.
I guess I am going down this track because I know I will not/cannot really have trouble from him with regards to custody. He has absolutely no interest in having a child live with him full time. He is is a relationship and is very very content. In saying that..he really wants this child.
When I got pregnant he was pretty devasted. I told him that I could not sit and wait another 6mths till his sperm was 'cooked'. I had no choice but to start with the donor.
Now that I am sadly no longer pregnant - well he gets the opportunity and is thrilled.