Hi Lulu,

Missed you being around - although if I miss you and Lissie too much I generally just sneak into the older ladies thread too - the people there are wonderful! I just find the thread goes incredibly fast for my poor little brain LOL!

I would love to have a copy of the two programs - I will PM you my details.

I hope everything is going well for you.

Hi Alison, my blogging friend! I think your plan to donate is absolutely brilliant! I knew from your notes to my blog that you are a wonderful person! GL with it all.

Hi RH, Blizz and B4Me,

Having done both, I think there is a major difference between unknown and known donors (from the perspective of using a SD - sperm donor). Using an unknown donor through a clinic, you don't have to worry about contact until the child turns 18. We had planned to tell the child all along that there was a third person involved in their birth, but had anticipated no contact until age 18.

With a known donor the lines are less defined. We are working it out as we go. At the moment we have agreed that our friend will be similar to a godfather or uncle - around, but not involved on a daily basis. We have been open with friends and family, and our SD has also been open with significant friends and family members. This has lead to a few issues with one of our SD's aunts who is being a little more enthusiastic than we would like, but we had a talk about it with him, and we are working though it.

Hi Millie,

You have really made me laugh! My DH is average height and our SD is short! The funniest thing is that I went with DH and bought a King sized single bed, saying to him 'Oh well, my family is tall, and your family is tall...' He looked at me and said 'Um, it won't be my genes, remember?' I had completely forgotten! When we told our SD he ROFL and said, 'I've never even touched the bottom of a single bed!' Oh well, hopefully our offspring will take after my family in this respect...