Donor Conception General Chatter #4

[Malyna]

Got everything crossed for you Gargy.. positive thoughts are heading your way!

[Lissie]

Gargy,

Gee how exciting for you although we all know the TWW from hell is just that! Crossed everything i can for you wishing you all the best & &

[blizz]

Hi girls,
Back from a very long, long weekend, am awfully glad to be home again, how exciting Gargy I have everything crossed for you, come on little embie you be good to your mummy!!!!

[Malyna]

Gargy, I'm still sending you

had our appointment today to look at the DS. We came home with the printouts and had decided in about 1.5 hours which one to choose. We both sat down with the listing and wrote down our shortlists, then we picked the ones that we both had in common, and then we were left with three. We both put one out then the last two was decided on DH's gut feeling. It is through Xytex so i went onto the website, paid me monies and had a look at the picture.

His childhood photo showed a kid with red hair (although the entire photo was red), which appears to come from a grandfather along the way. Although his children have brown hair.

The straws were expensive $650 each compared to the local donors which are $200.

it is really weird to look at a man (who is not your husband/partner) and say "Yep, he will be the father of the children" and know that it is all going to happen in a petri dish somewhere.

[alioops]

Tarkine, Parenthood is not just about genetics. yes, genetically it is that man's child but not emotionally or physically iykwim. an SD can only get as close as you allow him to so therefore ur DH will be the father of your baby, just not biologically. it will always be his child

[Malyna]

Tarkine, Parenthood is not just about genetics. yes, genetically it is that man's child but not emotionally or physically iykwim. an SD can only get as close as you allow him to so therefore ur DH will be the father of your baby, just not biologically. it will always be his child

My logical side of my mind knows this but that side of me, and I don't know what it is, perhaps my moral side (??) that is just a little freaked out by the whole process, but I know DH would be an excellent dad and that if/when we have a bub it will be totally adored by the entire family regardless of the biology

[blizz]

tarkine,
we went through a similar process when we first picked a donor his characteristics matched my DH so closely but unfortunately this donor wasn't proven and we had no success with him (probably lucky in a way as it turned out that I carry the cystic fybrosis gene and the donor hadn't been tested for it as he had donated before they increased the testing) we had to pick again and the next time round we weren't as lucky with DH's charateristics (we also didn't figure that blonde hair would turn up from reading our donor's information), but we wouldn't change ANYTHING Paige is quickly developing a strong character of her own and I know I can see a good mix of both of us in her, and reassure your DH that he will be so bonded with your bubba you still have the 9 mths of pg to get to know them and then the birth itself all awesomely bonding experiences but please be reassured that your DH will be the one who gets called "Dad, dad,dad" long before you get called "mum, mum,mum" if my experience is anthing to go by (go figure I think I do most of the work yet he gets the adoration!!!!)
how exciting for you both to be finally getting a step closer to your dreams, I am soooooo excited for you!!!

[Malyna]

Blizz, I was talking with SIL whose almost 8 month old is saying "Dada"... I think it is because dada is easier to say that mama (or anything remotely like ma/mum sound).

DH picked the donor because of the essay he wrote, mainly, and because his height and build is similar to his families. When we got the photo we were surprised at how familiar he looked.

Paige looks absolutely adorable from the photo in your signature. I can just see her twisting her dad around her little finger!

[blizz]

It's great that your DH is jumping straight in to the DS process, it's not always easy I know but it is amazing how clear things become and how our perceptions change when you are confronted with the....Well these are our options!!!!....scenario.
We did a similar thing but it took DH a little longer to get his head around the whole process(he felt a little removed form the whole thing even joked a couple of times that "you don't even need me here".I soon put him straight about that)
My DH was happy with our SD's information as well and that makes the process a lot less stressful
heres hoping it's the next step to your BFP

Gargy- oooohhhhh I hate the TWW, if you need to talk I'll be around all week DH goes back to work tomorrow night for night shift and won't be back till Monday. I have my scan on Thursday so I am hoping that I'll be joining you in the TWW shortly (I'm really bad for cheating I buy extra tests every time!!!!LOL)

[Lissie]

Tarkine,
Gongrats on picking a SD - genes are only 1% of parenting the other 99% is up to you and DH.
Hope your dream is not to far away.

[Malyna]

Your gals are inspirational!! I am a little overwhelmed at the moment , with the decision making process at the moment - I just think I'll just leave it for awhile and find myself a nice big patch of sand in which I can stick my head - ala ostrich!

[blizz]

come on babe!!! your on your way, It is a huge step to make sorting out your donor, time to get the ball rolling, I want to see you with that BFP as soon as possible, I may even jump on a plane and come your way when you get that positive result just so I can celebrate with you in person!!!!!

[Caramello]

Hey everyone,

Just been trying to keep to myself and not think about the TWW - all I think I've managed to do is drive myself nuts!

I've gone back to work as well which has been a huge change - would you believe I actually got a wobbly voice the first class I taught (sigh!).

Had a anxious night last night worrying about this blood test tomorrow. I haven't told anyone at work - they think I had a really boring holiday - so I didn't want to have time off and get more negative reaction. Luckily the clinic had an opening at 7.15 tomorrow so I'll be able to have the test and no-one will be the wiser.

However, I am planning to have next Friday off - that's PG day...

[blizz]

oooohhhhh honey I soooo know the TWW, I am wishing you all the positive thinking, sticky vibes and will send you even more baby dust, You hold in there for mummy little one!!!!!
I had my scan today follies aren't doing much it seems so I will need to rescan on Monday, no LH surge this week it seems, more waiting I have to try to fit it in around work times which is a pill and doesn't really lend itself to anonimity BUT it is what I need to do I guess, at least my boss is really good at supporting me with flexible times for these things even though she still seems to make me feel guilty some times

[Caramello]

I just felt too many people at work were overinvolved in my journey last year and particularly the year before, so now I'm keeping my mouth shut and getting on with things. It's a bit lonely, but I'm hoping better long term.

I had a lot of time off last year (I don't think I'd given myself enough time after the two operations to recover) so I don't want that sort of grief either. The clinic originally booked me in for 9am and that was smack bang in the middle of a class - the majority of kids that had to put up with me being away a lot last year.

Also, I am a bit concerned about this class anyway as its a brand new topic for me, so I'm a bit nervvy. Actually, I lost some sleep last night worrying about it, as well as missing the first lesson due to the blood test. Not so worried now, as I'll be there. (Although I've just cleaned the house, so I think I might be kidding myself...)

Anyone got storms? We had hail here earlier...

[blizz]

I know how hard it is with work but I guess I just rationalised it that I had to put me first and worry about work second, it's really hard because it's not in my nature to do that normally, I am getting better.
I hear you about work people being overly involved I still haven't figured out how to avoid this as it is really hard to ask for so much time off with out some sort of explanation.
It is even worse because now all of my work mates ask me so when is testing day? I know they mean well but come off it extra pressure here!!!!!I don't need it!!!! I have tried the tact that unless i say otherwise just assume that it hasn't taken. I will tell everybody when it has worked in my own good time.
It was really hard with my M/C as this happened at work and I left in tears.

[blizz]

oh yeah no storms here, it rained this morning and the wind is starting to pick up tonight, it has cooled of a little

[Caramello]

I think I'm in 'batten down the hatches' mode - I'm getting irritated with anyone that wants to talk to me about anything other than work.

Ok anxieties coming to the fore - please bear with me and answer if you can...

I'm concerned about my diet and whether I am doing the right thing. I accidently ate some deli meat on the first day at school (forgot that I should be watching what I was eating and ate it automatically).

I had a bad headache the other day and had some codiene tablets - went on line and find out that this is not a great thing to do. Now sitting here with a headache again not sure what to do.

I know that you avoid caffiene, but does that include iced tea?

I had a chocolate sundae from Maccas today and then went on line and found out that's not good either.

Can I cook meat at home and take it to school - will that cause any problems (it will be in a refrigerated bag, for about 20 minutes).

Is it too early for all these things to be a problem???

(As you can see, lots of pent up concern!!)