Tarkine, Parenthood is not just about genetics. yes, genetically it is that man's child but not emotionally or physically iykwim. an SD can only get as close as you allow him to so therefore ur DH will be the father of your baby, just not biologically. it will always be his child
My logical side of my mind knows this but that side of me, and I don't know what it is, perhaps my moral side (??) that is just a little freaked out by the whole process, but I know DH would be an excellent dad and that if/when we have a bub it will be totally adored by the entire family regardless of the biology