Donor Conception General Chatter #8

[slyder]

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[alioops]

Wow, I didn't realise we had so many posts!

Dusty, yay! PUPO!!!!!! and you wont be proven otherwise!

V (sorry cant remember the rest of your username) Hi! I am Ali, I have 2 gorgeous DD's and TTC #3. when I have had #3 I plan to donate Eggs. Usually ED does work and there are lots of beautiful babies with another mum's DNA but with wonderful parents. My sister took a while to Concieve her DD and that got me thinking about the heartache that so many couples go through, so I thought I should make a difference!

Tarkine: How you feeling hun? had any MS?

Allie: hope you are doing ok hun give paige and angus Kisses from all of us

Gargy: Hope you are feeling better today hun and work should take second priority to your family! maybe you need to see about another school? they obviously dont value you where you are.

Anyone I have missed, HI!!!!

[blizz]

Allie: hope you are doing ok hun give paige and angus Kisses from all of us

hee hee!! I don't think I can bend far enough to kiss Angus yet but he is rapidly pushing my tummy out so maybe soon, but kiss to Paige delivered as requested.
just popping in quickly to say
'my little girl is now 2....sob!!!!'
we had a great party yesterday with 9 of her day care friends (10, 2 year olds in total)
if typing gets a little bizzare Paige has just demanded 'me hop on mummy?' and is now wacking me in the facw with her crocodile 'nap.nap's'
too hard be back later for better update minus my blonde attatchment.
and would you believe it Gargy I am back to stage one of my cold again and so has Paige and yes we will both be going to the doctor as soon as possible
have to go

[Caramello]

Hey Ali,

Thanks for the talk last night - really enjoyed it. I think work is just a wait and see approach at the moment.

Hey Blizz,

Awww - your little girl turned two - how lovely! Glad the party went well.

Gee what fun - being jumped on and whacked in the face with nappies!

I had a big meltdown at work - see the blog for more details - but I think that this cold may actually be on its way out.

Feeling a bit vunerable but ok.

Hi to everyone else - hope you are travelling ok!

Packing tonight - will be going to MIL's tomorrow morning after dropping the pets to be boarded.

Catch up with you either tonight or on Wednesday.

[alioops]

Hey Guys, I just wanted to apologise for anything I have said that may have upset you. Thanks mods for letting me know some things I did without thinking .

I will follow your journals/blogs, but for now I am going to leave this thread, until the time comes for me to be in here properly.

to you all and I hope none of you remain in here when I return, because you will all have babies or be pg (maybe even 2nd or 3rd time!)

:babydust: and to you all.

Much love and sadness, Ali

[blizz]

hi all, I feel like I have been away for a year, It has been hard mustering enthusiasm to do anything at the moment, how are we all travelling?
We are fine here if you look past the stress and we are hopeful that mum may be able to come home this week sometime, apparently we are getting some results through on Tuesday or Wednesday so hopefully we will have some answers or at least mum can come home for a while until dad is in a better place to send her back for any furthur treatment.
I am hoping that their is an end insight for this cold it feels like it has been with me for ever and this is the third time I have felt like it is starting all over again I think the only solution is going to be to get away from long day care, it will be nice to be away from every single bug that is going around all I feel like I've done lately is to winge about being sick!!!! sorry if I've come across as a moaner it's just hard to see past it some times.
Gargy like I said in your blog, I hope you are feeling better about things and that you manage to get a break even if only for a little while.
Tarkine how are things with you sweets how are your levels? and how are you feeling?
Dusty, how are we looking for transfer of my prospective cyber niece or nephew? I will keep everything crossed for you honey
Lissie glad you are feeling better as well hon, sounds like you had a rough time of it,hopefully you are resting well for your FET I will keep my fingers crossed for you as well sweets
Venus, good luck on your journey I hope it's a quick one to success
What's happening with Ali? what did I miss?
well ladies I really need to go to bed the sledge hammer is taking aim at my temples again oh what I wouldn't give for just a little demazin!!!!!!!
love to you all and I WILL be back soon Allie xxxxxx

[blizz]

evening all,
what a night we had last night. We went to visit my DH's sister and her family last night so they could see Paige for her birthday and it was all cool up until the fact that my niece(Paige's fovourite person in the whole world) was spinning Paige around on the old office chair and Paige went flying off the chair and cracked her head in to the coffee table breaking a coffee cup in the process (she is totally fine by the way) she scared herself I think but she scared her cousin more my poor niece dissolved in to tears so I had Paige in one arm and my niece in the other trying to reassure them both that they were OK.
about 4am this morning DH leaps out of bed and fly's to Paiges room, Paige had fallen out of her big bed on to her head over the top of the safety rail (go figure) I am deaf at the moment and didn't hear a thing so luckily DH was there, again she is OK has a bump and carpet graze on her forrid but no worse for wear.
the funny thing is she made it to 2 with out any major bumps and crashes.....she's been 2 for a day and now look what happens......we're doomed!!!!!

[MsPink]

Just dropping in to see how all you chick-a-dees are doing...???

How are the preggo ladies doing? well I hope...

Gargy - I know you've gone away...but wanted to say HI and see where you're at. When do you start IVF??

Dusty - well you know I am for you...I mean it babe - it's time...

Lissie - glad u doing better. I think you are doing a tf August?? Hopefully I'll be doing one with you..

[Malyna]

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Alioops - maybe I missed something re you causing offence - I think its wonderful to know that there are donors out there.

Gargy - hope your holiday goes well.. Can I carry your bags for you?

Blizz - Did you get the test results yet? I have my fingers crossed for your mum. Could Paige possibly be heading for a career as a stunt woman? I hope the cold passes quickly

Lulu - how are things with you?

me - i've got a cold or cold symptoms still - my voice has gone husky, and its gone a few times. Everytime I sneeze or cough I get a sharp pain in my lower abdomin (spelling?) (on the right side) - rang the dr to make an appointment and they offered me one for monday (next week). Will ask the nurse when I go to get my bloods taken on thursday re the pain. I guess I'm not that bothered by it, as I've always had the same pain whenever I've sneezed (and my body has been in the wrong position) since I was a child.

Ultrasound on the 16th to see if we have a heartbeat. I'll just sit back and wait and see what nature brings. No point in worrying about it, won't make any difference to the outcome .. just sitting back and enjoying the journey.

The good news is that I'm down to 1xcrinone a day, still have to take a panadol before going to bed (otherwise I'm up all night with darn stomach cramps) - They are not monitoring my PG levels, only progesterone and I'm hoping that they will weane me off crinone soon - last night I was really to kill to get off crinone, cramping, insomnia - a man must have created this drug and he had something against women!!!! *climbing down off her I-hate-crinone soap box*

[blizz]

me - i've got a cold or cold symptoms still - my voice has gone husky, and its gone a few times. Everytime I sneeze or cough I get a sharp pain in my lower abdomin (spelling?) (on the right side) - rang the dr to make an appointment and they offered me one for monday (next week). Will ask the nurse when I go to get my bloods taken on thursday re the pain. I guess I'm not that bothered by it, as I've always had the same pain whenever I've sneezed (and my body has been in the wrong position) since I was a child.

I am so hearing you on all of this!!!!, I too have been sneezing with this PG but up to 10 times in a row, poor Angus will come out and find life so boring when he is not being constantly thrown around by my violent sneezing, I too get the pain if I sneeze at the wrong angle (sorry to tell you hon, it gets harder to find the right angle the bigger you get!!!!)

I have got some results about my mum and as I kind of expected they aren't good, mum has been diagnosed with the condition called fronto-temporal dimensia, although she is apparently in the very early stages of the condition it is not usually detected for 10 years in to the illness and the specialist thinks that mum is only 4 years in to it.
So I don't really know the ins and outs of it yet but I do know that I learnt my lesson about googling the condition and will wait to get my information off the doctors.
there is a more detailed account of my last few days in my blog.

but don't panic I am feeling a little better about things today.

I am on another course of antibiotics (different ones this time) so fingers crossed for a speedy recovery as my stuffed up head and chest is not helping in any, way, shape or form.I have found a cold medication that my pharmasist assures me is a class A drug and as such, safe to take in pregnancy it is just an antihistamine and panadol and I am only taking it of a night to help ease the congestion in my head so I can sleep.
Paige is on antibiotics again as well

When I feel a little more chipper I will put some photos of your cyber niece's 2nd birthday up for you all, not that I have many that don't have all of her friends attatched to her!!!!

Paige did her first wee on the toilet in the middle of her birthday party, she was getting concerned that all of her friends were using HER toilet, since then we have had three wee's on the potty and lots of cheering and hand clapping

well guys I am going to get organised for tomorrow I have OB's appointment in the arvo so am only working a half day and I will pick Paige up from day care straight after this appointment and head up to visit mum (she is home now at least so I won't HAVE to visit her every night, Paige has started saying "no nanny" when we leave daycare of a night)
I love youse all, take care my sweets
Alliexxxxxx

[dusty]

all

back Venus, I haven't seen you since we were in a TWW together last year. I am hoping this time around will bring you much happiness and a great result!

Ali, you will make a wonderful donor and I am so glad you have reactived the Potential Donor thread. I am sure your own journey enthusiasm and interest in donation will help some others to think about their own potential to give such an amazingly selfless gift. I know I will see you elsewhere on the threads.

Tarkine, oh hun crinone is disgusting stuff. I totally know how you feel. But once you hold bubs in your hands it will all fade away. Bring on the 16th and I think your approach is so inspiring. I have learned so much from your way of thinking.

Lulu, you are a sweetie. I hope so too huney!

Lissie, I am getting my pom poms dusted and am gearing up for some embie cheering....

Allie, aggh a cold you poor thing and how cute is Paige and HER toilet. I have replied in your blog too.

Gargy, YAY for your holidays FINALLY!!! I have everything crossed for your FS appointment. Way to go hun!

Just waiting here...
xx

[Malyna]

Blizz Paige is such a caring old soul. I put a post on your blog. Not sure on the right wording - I can understand where you are at the moment (having been there with my mum - different issue).

Dusty - you are my inspiration hun! You are such an amazing person. You have been there for me answering my endless questions, and always willing to catch up for a coffee to talk about life. U R AWESUM!!

[Joy08]

Hi Everyone

Thought I would join in on this thread as DH & I have found ourselves on the path of possibly using donor sperm.
DH was diagnosed as having Sertoli-Cell Only syndrome.. he does'nt have the cells to produce sperm. It came as such a shock as we had been trying to get pregnant for 7 months and as things weren't happening I asked DH to have a semen test to make sure everything was ok... well 2 sperm tests and 1 biopsy later there is no sperm!!
We have found out that the condition is normally genetic but in DH's case it isnt... so it's a mystery!! They are going to do a more intensive search on DH to see if there are any sperm anywhere (hiding somewhere!!??)
Our FS suggested starting me on IVF cycle then timing in DH's operation and if they dont find anything with DH we use backup donor sperm (we have chosen a donor).
We are still getting our head around things... DH is handling things soooo well. We still really want to have a family and this is a good option for us.
We have told our immediate family but am really struggling with who else to tell. I kind of want to tell close friends but DH said we dont have to tell anyone else, he doesn't want our child to find out how they came into the world through hearing other people talking.. and I know what people are like when you tell them something in confidence... 'dont say anything but guess what I found out..' then before you know it it's out there!! We saw a councellor last week and she said the more in control of the situation the better.. the more people who know the more 'out of control' the situation is. Part of me just feels like we are 'deceiving' our friends in a way (DH says I am a very loyal friend!!) We would tell our friends eventually... maybe when child is 5ish?? Sometimes I think it's just easier if people know then we dont have to worry about who knows & who doesnt!! But then the more people who know the more I will worry if they have told others!! Can anyone offer any advice on this?? It is really getting to me!!!
Thank you all so much for listening.. I look forward to chatting to you all soon.....

[Caramello]

And I'm Baaaacccckkkk...

Just going for a meander around the site - catch up soon.

[blizz]

Hi Gargy,
good to have you back hope your holiday was just what the doctor ordered, I think a holiday is definatley on the cards for us shortly I feel the need to run away from everything for about a week so I am thinking Melbourne might be on the cards in the next few weeks watch this space!!!!

[Malyna]

- Welcome back Gargy How was your break?

Joy - I think the decision to tell people if you used donor sperm is such an individual(couple) based decision. A few months ago, there was a series on SBS Future Families. After we watched an episode on DS, DH and I decided that we wanted everyone to know about our decision on using donor sperm. I also come from a family where there is some mystery about the father of my oldest sister (who was born 4 years before my parents were married). For us, we wanted to be upfront with any offspring we have to tell them they were conceived through donor sperm.

You have to do whatever is going to work with your family. I think one of my friends knows we went through donor sperm - and I trust her with this and know she will not do or say anything about it that would hurt me.

Ultimately the decision is going to rest between you and DH. Perhaps time will modify the decision slightly, maybe its best to let it rest for awhile. Good luck with your decision

[blizz]

I am truely thankful for my family, my brother called around tonight with his two boys and we had a good heart to heart, I am most thankful in the fact that my family all live in the same small town and that they are equally as concerned and ready to help with mum as a family unit.
When my nan died (mum's,mum) the last of her brothers quickly left the state which left mum as the only sibling remaining to look after pop, so our family took on this role, maybe it a result of this that we will all band together or maybe it's the fact that we are family and similar minded people (with the exception of one of my brothers, I have 3 by the way)
Dad is heart broken and really struggling and I guess all we can do in band around him and be there for him as much as possible.
Well on a brighter note have had a quiet day at home to help get on top of my latest flair up of cold and Paige had a 5 hour sleep(this will probably come back to haunt me tonight)
How is it that sharing a bed with a 2yr old or a soppy border collie all end up with the same outcome.....poor pg uncomfortable mummy in the tiniest most awkward position in the bed??????????
last night was fun I was sharing with both of them at the same time!!!!!! I think I need to be firmer!!!!!
didn't have a lot of sleep last night (paranoid when Paige is in bed with me and never sleep properly) got 2 hours this arvo whilest she had 5 I was woken up by previously mentioned puppy barking at a cat breaking wind 6 blocks from us!!!!!!(nothing much in other words)
when I was saying good bye to my brother tonight I started jiggling because I had to go to the bathroom, I get back inside and Paige distracts me with something and I sneeze, and for the second time this pg I wet my pants!!!!!! 'MUST DO PELVIC FLOORS, MUST DO PELVIC FLOORS'
I am feeling a bit better and can actually breathe tonight (yep darth vader has been back since sunday)
and I have got over the guilt of taking today off work, I keep pushing myself and It just isn't possible to do everything at once, I need to stop matyring myself and trying to be full time fantastic employee,super mum, single mum, pg mum, sick mum who pushes on over guilt of letting people down, and daughter to a sick mum and stressed dad....did I leave anything out?????
I feel better for having the day off....there I said it!
I am going to take a little time for me this weekend and try to feel a little more in control of my life.
feel better after unloading, sorry if this is a little long winded.

[Malyna]

Blizz hun - your family sounds wonderful - how many siblings do you have? Are you the only girl?
It sounds pretty crowded in your bed at the moment! I can't laugh between DH and two cats, I'm lucky to get any space.

Good on you for taking the day off work - there is no point in being the matyr - the only person you end up hurting is yourself (this is coming from an ex-matyr), who learnt the hard way and ended up with chronic fatigue

Yah for taking time for yourself this weekend!! I hauled my ass out to the garden today (after sitting inside for 2 weeks with this cold) and did some light pruning in the garden (which is my drug of choice - I love gardening) and the cats were out and about and it was probably only 8 degrees, but I still really enjoyed myself just being with the garden.

to everyone

Gargy where did you go on your break?