Hi Mejane,

I'm not sure what state you are in but in Victoria and in NSW there have been legal cases go through the courts where donors (who used home AI) have been able to get access to the child. In one case the mother ended up killing herself and the child after a judge awarded fortnightly access to the donor. In both cases the judges looked at what was agreed to prior to conception and during pregnancy and in the case above there was no written agreement and since the mother and the donor disagreed on what had been the original agreement but there was nothing in writing to prove either side to be telling the truth the judge sided with the donor.

Interestingly you are right about the woman not being entitled to any financial support from the donor if conception was through AI. So while the woman has no rights the donor does.

Lori

hiya,

I have and have never had a problem with it. The donor needs to be the 'right' kind of person and the level of trust is always paramount. If I get any dodgy offers from guys wanting to 'do it' naturally I send them packing!

I also don't believe that it is my responsibility to pay for flights and things to get the donor to me because the money spent on air fairs- I would spend at a clinic!

As far as the Law goes, even if you have something down on paper- it still means diddly squat, because legally- a man who has not produced offspring any way other than naturally is not entitled to any rights over the child-nor is she entitled to anything from him for the child. Thats just the way it is, Reese Whitherspoon in Legally Blonds 'reckless abandonment' argument or not!- sorry couldn't help myself there!! LOL

cheers

MJ