Hoobley,
Your last paragraph brought tears to my eyes. You are so right about me. i want him to live my dreams. I don't want him to have bad memories of his childhood.
i really think that my son has the same character as you not wanting to do something that he knows he may end up as a failure since we ALWAYS tell him how smart he is and how good he is academically.
i will buy him chess software or a hand held electronic chess game since he loves it so much. I want to thank you and appreciate the time and effort it has taken to write that very long post just for my son and i. i thank you once again.

Kiting is great. His dad is very capable at building and making things so i will suggest that they spend some "boy" time together and make one and we go out as a family and fly it together.

Thanks to ALL