I would definitely be speaking to the carers about how they are making you feel by blaming your child all the time. It doesn't have to be directly, but if it comes up (or there is another incident) ask 'What are the other child's parents doing about it? What is the centre doing about their behaviour?' If they do keep blaming your child, ask if it would be OK for you to bite the carer - obviously not, so at what age does it become unacceptable (frankly it is never acceptable)? Ask to see their relevant policy, is there a head office you can speak with further if you don't feel like the director is addressing your concerns?

We had issues with an ongoing biter - it was in the under 2's room (so a bit different), but he was removed from the situation whenever he did it. There was also a lot of discussion with the parents and they changed his routine around which had quite an impact. Him and DD are now best of friends.

Ausgirl - I would be very interested to hear what NCAC deem to be best practice these days for this sort of behaviour??