I think that too Xanthe... I don't think it's allowing abuse though. When we can be an observer of our life & mindful and watchful of reaction... Reaction is always (I believe) from the ego... At least emotional reaction...

It's hard often though hey?
It is very hard sometimes . Especially when you need to respond quickly, or are frazzled and tired. It requires fast self reflection! And I find this difficult if my day has been one constant rush.