wow what a great thread.

i would like to think that i could be responsible for my feelings but that is such a hard thing to do always.
i agree that being responsible for our feeling does not mean that we should not be polite and kind. i believe the opposite really. if we can understand how we react to what people say then shouldn't we then realise how people will react to what we say. in an ideal world i think this would be true and there would be a lot of spared feelings.

this is a really interesting topic and im glad that someone has decided to discuss this.