I have witnessed how my MIL has affected my dh. he is lacking emotional intelligence and has a very strained rel/ship with her. i believe that this section of who he is as a 'whole person' has been strongly held back by the way that he has been nurtured, and so i guess in my parenting i want my kids to be the best that they can be. i think that you give them the foundation and then they choose where to go with it. i guess i think our job is to give them the strongest platform to stand on.