dont beleive talking to brother will benefit anything.opinions, similar stories,pls

[sue1386]

misty your viewpoint of how you handle it is a valid viewpoint thanks i dont think i'm able to do that at this point while suffering but maybe in future if my situation was much better and my trauma resides.


formyself if i saw a friend in a terrible situation, eg for some reason that week they had no groceries or no heater, or whatever, i'm just giving examples, and for a low cost, i could help them and i knew that they do the most possible for their own life they are not lazy or irresponsible or addicts etc.
then i would do all possible to give them comfort releif support protection.
there are always small ways we can bring support love comfort relief for someone alone in the world who we care about.


I dont think i will ever get over that my brother wasnt there for me so i continue builing my own life as o
ve always done . he doesnt care about my challenges and exhaustion and in some ways its better that way as not everyone has the wisdom experience and skills to be helpful to someone in trauma.

some will just show they are not capable of having the wisdom to support and will just be soul destroying.those who just call it 'drama' or throw insituations to let themselves off the hook just show how they dont have the make up to connect with the legitimate trauma of others and would just be hurtful rather than helpful supportive anyway.so its a blessing when some dont help but i dont need to be around it at this point.


thanks for all the various ways i could look at this from various viewpoints that were helpful.