Hit by the ugly stick

[AnyDream]

Anney, I'm checking out a couple of support groups, but they're not running for the year yet, I also have a wonderful naturopath that I often talk to. I'm not sure the programs you're referring to (like Look Good Feel Better) are quite up the right tree - the problems on the inside, not the outside, kwim?

BTW I specially posted here and not on a BC forum because a) some of the ladies on those forums are going thru much much worse and feeling ugly's pretty trite and b) I have read some really insightful threads here on BB and actually I think this is an issue (mastectomy part aside) that a lot of women would relate to. The experience of going along comfy in yourself and then something changes (bad haircut? pregnancy? gain/lose a few kgs? break up with someone?) and suddenly you're not feeling the inner beauty part of yourself any more.

Nelle - I like your comparison to bather shopping. I don't normally spend much time peering in the mirror - but now I'm constantly checking to see how the recon is looking - it's a bit like the changeroom fluoro-lighting thing . I think acceptance is part of it (that's where the grieving part comes in) but there's more to it than that too.

Fourth - thanks for your note of support. Funnily enough I've never been short on the self-love - it's normally me talking my friend thru their moments of self-doubt. That's why I'm finding this a challenge. ( BTW I love your blog).