Queen, I love your suggestion of getting a positive board going...I have some lovely affirmation cards but they tend to float around a bit...it would be nice to have them together in one lovely place. Reminding me of my own loveliness.

Pix - You're right, I would never allow someone to say it about someone else.

Smiles - Your SIL was amazing to find the positive like she did and I know you treasure those memories . I have already gotten significant benefit from this thread - even tho when I started it I thought I might flush out more BBers with their own 'ugly stick' feelings - I have been digesting slowly slowly and I can feel a shift taking place inside me. Not there yet but it's coming. BTW - I feel much safer knowing you're on my side, sticking up for me, Smiles!