Thanks everyone for the replies. This thread has certainly opened up my persepctive and re-affirmed (yet again) why I lurve BB!

Tish - You're always great company on BB!

LoriRae - Thanks for the post - I will PM you about the book!

Liz - I know what you mean about "poor me" sessions, because I certainly don't like that - I am just missing a rational and frank dicussion about how I feel sometimes, without it being couched in humour or exaggeration...but I think sometimes people respond better to an over the top "woe is me" kinda tone iykwim? And I agree about the "treading on people's toes" factor IRL...it makes it hard.

MR - I am an ABA member, so maybe I should try and get along to some more sessions (in fact I am hosting one very soon!)

fionas - I totally agree about the Mother's Group thing, and I have stopped going, because I felt I wasn't being understood. I think I had zero expectations about motherhood - and in a way its just been a shock to the system.

Willow - that is so, so true about women IRL being too busy to really talk. My SIL and I always try and have D&Ms, only to be interrupted a zillion times by our babies (and her toddlers).

Thanks again everyone!