Well you have made a start by saying that you want to change.

I've read a lot of self help books over the years, and I guess what works for one person may not work for another.

I started with Gloria Steinman's Revolution from Within. Read Louise Hay (she has some great affirmation tapes - which you can listen to while driving etc), then I pretty much just wandered through the self help section, read books that caught my eye.

I also read a lot of auto/biographies over the years. I found books like "Cave in the Snow" "Home of the Blizzard" and "South" to be inspirational - because these were normal people doing extraordinary things, and in the case of the last two - surviving.

Analytical meditations, journalling and then re-reading those entries so you can understand why you are feeling the way you are, then writing about your discoveries can help you 'figure yourself out'. Meditation, mindfulness, eating healthy and exercise are all important.

Be kind to yourself, forgive yourself when you go back a step and take your time in moving forward. Don't rush.

My latest is falling in love with myself. It's a really tough ask, and I'm struggling with it, but I know with time and patience, I'll get there.

All the best for your journey.