I agree that the negative talk isn't helpful but can slip out on bad days. No matter what we think of ourselves out LO's think we are fantastic. I have had huge issues raising DD1 and so I have been going to PND group counselling. DD1 asked me what it was so I told her it was a group to help me be a better mum. Her reply brought me to tears: "you don't need to go to that mum, you are the best mum in the world!" and she gave me a great big hug.