Science Daily: What You Say About Others Says a Lot About You, Research Shows Aug '10

[Bathsheba]

LOL there's not much to "get" about those song lyrics Inanna It was just an example of how you can change/choose your perspective in your challenging interactions with people. I've read Morrissey's biography and I know that he really struggled to be happy in his early years, especially in school/work environments because of poor interpersonal skills. He has a lot of built up anger about it but manages to let it out in a safety valve of creativity and humour. I try to learn from this. And I often apply it to challenging situations here on BB. If I read a thread that leaves my blood boiling I can often choose to sit back and look at it in a different way. Sometimes in explaining it to DH the humour of it comes out.

Me: "Oh for goodness sake these comments in these thread are just so so so... people need to bloody well stop and think about how what they are saying is being interpreted by others! Nark nark nark etc"

DH "Hehe... listen to you... all in a flap, go hang out in the hen house for a while then"

So of course the idea of me sitting in the hen house de-briefing with Tina (our chicken) makes me laugh and I gain a bit of perspective. I've taken that all important step back and looked at the situation with a degree of separation. I think it's important to be able to do that. I wish I could manage my time better to meditate... but at least I have the hen house!