Ok, this is just my thoughts here, what I would do, but not what you should do... just my ramblings LOL

I guess its about priorities. How much does having small age gaps mean? How much does losing weight mean? What impact would having 3 kids close in age have on losing weight? What impact would losing weight have on having 3 kids? Do you want 3 kids and then lose weight? Or would you prefer to be a healthy size with 3 kids?

Thats just my thinking anyway. I would lose the weight first, because I think it'd be hard enough getting enough time to go to the toilet (can be hard enough with one clingy one!!) let alone giving yourself the time to lose weigh KWIM? Would having 3 kids be an excuse NOT to give the time to yourself? Or would it be more of a motivator? What impact would excess weight have on a pregnancy? On being a mum to 3 kids? What would be the impact of letting go of your dreams of having 3 close in age? Would that be equally as depressing as being overweight? More? Less?

For me, I'd wait, lose the weight, then TTC. BUT my dream isn't to have kids really close together so for me waiting and losing the weight is the best option. If I had wanted 3 kids close together, and that was one of my ultimate dreams/goals then it would probably be a different story...

Just weigh up, which goal/dream whatever means the most. Which one would you be most disappointed to let go of. Usually your heart but yeah just weigh it up.

Oh, I suppose you have to factor DF in that too.... how hard is it going to be to get him onside? Suppose you probably should talkto him and ask why he isn't 100% on TTC right now too...