My lovely but very messy in laws...

[fionas]

Ashlea - could you get your DP to have a word to his brothers and explain to them that the ILs have looked after them for so long, now it's time for them to reciprocate a bit and do a big clean-up and then make more of an effort day-to-day.

I have been an exceptionally messy person in the past - but messy people don't actually enjoy living in mess, they're just a bit clueless on how to start to get it sorted.

It sounds like your ILs have a lot on their plate so you don't even need to make this about your baby, just get the brothers to do their bit for their parents.

[Daydream Believer]

Ash- Tell them your are having a holiday at the same time thats why you are staying in a motel and tell them you'll visit a couple of days and you would like to go out a couple of days. Like "family outings" that way they can still see the baby but you wont have to be at their house all the time. So say you are going for 7 days, Day 1: Your time, Day 2:visit at their house, Day 3: Go out somewhere with them, Day 4: Your time, Day 5: Visit them, Day 6: Go out somewhere, Day 7: drop past on the way home.
Even if when you are "going out" for the day just go to a picnic ground, or nice hotel/cafe/resturant for lunch/dinner.
Make out that you are having a holiday and you will see them as often as possible while still doing your own thing.

Thats my idea anyway