Alex not eating dinner is a little unusual. He's been constipated (requiring laxatives) twice in the last week, so I am concerned if he's not eating. I'm sure both boys have been pretty stressed out by what's happening. However, Ned seems to have adjusted much better than Alex, I've now got Ned sleeping through the night after 13 months of getting up a few (read lots of) times a night! So yes, Alex not eating is a concern.

I like the idea of the light hearted approach, ie "your son dobbed you in", I think that might be the way to go. I'm still a little concerned that XH might think I'm jealous though. Definitely want to raise with him the "friend" as opposed to "relationship" thing, I think it will really confuse the boys if Daddy is all over somebody who's not Mummy, IYKWIM!

I'm also a little confused as to why he didn't tell me, he's told me pretty much everything else!

I guess I'm a little pi$$ed off as well, I mean, they're my kids too, I know legally I don't have a say in what he does when the kids are with him, but I would have thought that this type of behaviour is something that ought to be discussed first.

And wierd as it might sound, I also want to meet the "friend" before she meets the kids... not "vetting" as such, but just to make sure that she's okay...