okay, so maybe its me being overly sensitive, but.....

as a first time mum with a 10 week old baby, i really have NO DESIRE at the moment to leave her with someone so i can 'have a break'. sure i've left her with her daddy to do routine things like food shopping etc, and once i even went to the movies, but thats as far as it goes for now.

i know they are well meaning, but the constant offers to mind bubs while i take a break are wearing me down. i dont WANT to leave her with anyone so we can go out for dinner etc. She is only 10 weeks old. She is still being breast fed. She is not in any routine at the moment and in fact we have been having some problems with her sleeping, so i really don't want to leave her with anyone right now.

i know that she would just be kept up for hours (she has great stamina and is a pro at appearing 'not tired') and people dont seem to understand she only needs to stay up for about an hour and a half to two hours..... i would be left to pick up the pieces with an overtired baby once i get her back.

i feel really guilty about this. i am 100% sure once she is older i will be happy to leave her so we can go out and have some fun, but at the moment i just really am not confident about it.

has anyone else had pressure (and it may be in my head) from family etc to babysit. i would be fine with leaving her with my mum, as my mum has spent lots of time with her and knows how i am with her, but i dont want to risk offending the in laws. should i just be doing what i want and not worrying about how others will feel?

i never realised there would be so many other people to consider when having a baby. surely it is my right as her mum to say 'thanks but no thanks for now'. do i even need to explain myself?

i know people are just being nice and supportive but honestly, just sit back and wait until u are asked, i know u are there.