I totally understand it was almost reading my own thoughts!!! my IL's are always insiting us to go out to the movies or dinner and they will have DD, im am constantly saying no (we dont want too) and its driving me up the wall! i know they mean well but we will go out when we are good and ready to leave DD with them.(which probably wont be for a long time) i just dont feel confident to leave DD with them, they do things their way and not how i ask them too :s MIL also has set up a cot in her room and other things as if she expecting to have DD all the time?! i feel im having to explain myself for not letting them babysit, but now i just say no thanks!

i have no problem leaving her with my parents i trust my mum 100% and she has been around to see excatly the way i like things done and she respects my wishes!