The role of Godparents?

[melham74]

Sarah I feel much the same as you.
DD, DS1 and DS2 all have relatives for Godparents and the ones on my side of the family are pretty good. DS3 on the otherhand has my best freind, her hubby and daughter as well as BIL so 2 godmums and 2 godfathers, when he was born and I guess right up until Christmas they were around him all the time, they only live 2 mins drive or 10 mins walk away, thats not to say they havent seen him because they have just not been so interested in him iykwim. I can understand to a certain piont they lost their little angel to sids in Feb she was only a month old, since then they havent seen him at all, they do ask how he is though. BUT what really gets to me is that we have another friend with a little girl who is 5 mnths old and they go to her house but wont come here, I thought it would be harder to see her considering theur baby was a girl as well, and I get the feeling that Cooper is nothing to them, It is his 1st Birthday at the end of the month and I am going to tell them we are having a small party but dont feel obligated to attend but I will pick their other kids up and bring them here for his party, but am guessing they wont be here, just really upsets me they can make time for another child but not thier God son. Sorry to turn this into my rant I just really understand where you are comming from.

[~breeze~]

In regards to discussing beforehand...

Our church had a "seminar night" I guess you could call it, to discuss the role of Godparents. To be honest I didn't listen much as I was looking after DD who was very tired etc (tsk tsk I know!)

When we booked in our Christening we were given the dates of these seminar nights & we had to choose one & put our names down so they didnt get too many people the one night.

It's a good idea for the religious side of it (LOL @ "religious side", they're called GODparents, theres nothing non-religious about that haha)

[Rouge]

It's a good idea for the religious side of it (LOL @ "religious side", they're called GODparents, theres nothing non-religious about that haha)

If we could have aptly named them life guides we would have. I do however think there is more to godparents than religion.

[~breeze~]

If we could have aptly named them life guides we would have. I do however think there is more to godparents than religion.

I'm not saying it's all about religion, the name Godparents is a religious name. I didnt even think non-religious people Christened their children & gave them Godparents? I was just commenting on the name....

As I said in my first post, I think it's more important to have a Godparent who is a part of the childs life over someone who is chosen just for the Religious side of it.

I don't have a problem with non-religious people having as you call it "life guides", I think it's a wonderful idea.

[Visitor9]

When we chose Eliza's Godparents we ended up sitting down with the two people and in asking them, put it all on the table what we would "like" them to do as Godparents. These 2 people are the most compassionate and both have beautiful souls we could ever come across Qualities that if Eliza develops I will be a happy mummy.
As it has eventuated one who lives closer is in her life all the time and treats her as one of her own and the other who lives further away is wonderful in other ways including taking her on family holidays.
Our Godparents are both ladies whom I aspire to be like and although they are guiding Eliza they often teach me ways.
Bec
I had a friend who presumed she would be godparent but certainly does not have any of the above qualities we often laugh as the only spiritual advising would be Gin or Vodka

[Mez80]

I too believe that the role of a God parent is a very important one and am at the other end of the stick. DH and I were chosen to be god parents to our beautiful God daugther in 2002. Just after her frist birthday they started becoming very 'busy'. We had since moved to the ACT but were in sydney twice a month and always rang to pop over as we were such good friends. DH and I dont know why they decided to block us out of their lives but to this day i still think about out little God daughter and wish we could be a part of her life. They can always find us if they want to so hopefully they do one day.It just feels so wrong.