Oh Kerry, I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through ATM. I can only imagine how hard it must be for you.

If it's going to be a stretch on the budget to go and see a private solicitor, then perhaps go to Legal Aid or your local Community Legal Service (or at least give them a call). They should be able to give you some advice and let you know if you qualify for their assistance should it be needed. I definitely think it's something you should do, if you have concerns about the ability of your ex to care for the baby. I'm not an expert in this area, but being the baby's next of kin, I would have thought that your ex would automatically gain custody. So this makes it even more important to speak to someone now about your concerns, should the worst happen. You should also consider updating your will, or creating one if you haven't got one already. A lot of people forget this aspect of things when they are separating and I am sure you may want to specify certain things for your child etc.

Good luck Kerry.