What made you decide NOT to go for #3?

[PinkPalace]

If i could give birth to a 6 month old i would consider it. lol

Mostly our decision though is financial - so that we can continue to live in our means the lifestyle we like. To be able to allow me to stay at home and only work part time until the kids are at school.

We decided we are just more comfortable having one each to hold (and we are both from families of 3 children).

Originally we said 4 but after having 2 i know that we have finished our family

[myson]

i desperately wanted a third and straight after 2 girls was read to try again. DH was dead against the idea. We got passed the baby stage and the girls grew up so lovely (of course ) but DH was always "happy with the two healthy ones we've got". 6 yrs later he realizes I always wanted a boy and he was the one who robbed me of the chance. So he says "ok, lets go for it then" so there will be an 8 yr gap between 2 and 3.I was so sure he would never want another that i had convinced myself i just had to be ok with 2 as well.

anyway. nothing like your situation, but wanted to put it in just to let you know that feelings may change down the track... you just dont know.

[Kitt3n]

for us, having little laaaa has made us want to go for more, not stop!

i always wanted 2 or 3 (actually ever since i was a kid i wanted twins and a nigel - twins first to entertain each other. well that never happened!)

but its each family to their own - you have to do what feels right

[Curly]

DH and I always said that in a perfect world, provided financial and emotional resources are sufficient, we would have 4. But we agreed on 3.

DS was a terrible sleeper and still winds up in bed with us nearly every night. I was really starting to think 2 would be my limit. But DD is such a sweetheart that we are now saying 4 again and we aren't bothering to take any precautions...I am ready for number 3 anytime and DD is only 3 months old.

Here's a way of looking at it - I believe the general advice is that the youngest child should be at least 12 months old before a decision is made on vasectomy/tubal ligation. Why don't you defer any definite decision on #3 till your DD is 12 months and then see how you feel? You're only just now coming out of the newborn mayhem - of course you won't be feeling inclined to upset the applecart right now, not when things are just starting to become more settled.

Your DS and DD are very close together and it must have been really hard work in those early days.

DH and I wanted our kids closer together but it just didn't happen that way and in the end we think having 2 years between them has worked very well for DS, much better than 18 months would have. I have friends with kids only 18 months apart and I do think the extra 6 months I had up my sleeve has made a huge difference to our experience. You may decide to have #3 but just with a bigger gap this time.