We were happy and settled at 2 - had one of each, financially coming together for the first time. I think we both had what we needed with 2 kids and didn't feel the NEED for another one. Obviously Georgia had other ideas and now i'm so glad she came along but i'd be lying if I said life wasn't a lot harder with three!!
In the ideal world who knows how many i'd have but realisticly once i have this one i really don't see us going back for anymore. DH is one of five and i am one of two, very different family situations but are both quite content with the thought of just two of our own. Right throughout this pregnancy i have said this is it.
Major factors are financial (but i hate that that even comes into it)
I don't want my DH and myself to have to work flat out for years to be able to put them all through, school, highschool, uni, cars, weddings things like that.
I want to be able to work part time while they are babies and go back to full time when they are school age, not before.
I'd love for us to be able to relax a bit at a 'fairly youngish age'.
Our house would not suit anymore than 4 people and i'm really quite content here.
The car is the same situation.
DS was a beautiful baby once we established a routine and knew what we were doing as parents. As much as he is at that challenging stage now he is still really great. I am a bit uncertain about this one but hopefully if i put in the hard yards again with this one it''ll be just as good. I may be in dream land but we'll soon find out.
I have a child, I'd like one more, with my DF. Perhaps 3 in total, but for now, two is more financially practical. I am waiting a few more months to try and convince him. He is adamant he is not ready yet. I sure hope in a few months he changes his mind.
When DH and I first talked about children we both agreed that 3 would be a great number (we both came from families with 3 children) but since we found out (and keep finding more) about DD's health problems we have decided to stop at 2. We're both not 100% happy about that but we feel it's only fair to her and DS since we can give them both now the attention they need but if we had another baby all three would miss out.
It's also better for us financially, especially now as we have been personally affected by the financial crisis.
We have decided not to go for #3 and for these reasons....
1. I had 2 very difficult pregnancies
2. I had fertility issues so am pretty sure it would be very hard to conceive again
3. Financially we are much more stable and can provide a very comforable life for our 2 girls
Well, in my head if we were going to have children, we'd have a heap of them. Then we had DD1, and it was pretty traumatic, still is. We still had DD2 despite our fears and she's been lovely. BUT since she turned 20 months, we decided that we were finished. Its lovely to be finished... to be over the first 12 months.
We always said we would have 2 so we can afford to keep our lifestyle and give the children the opportunity, financially, to do whatever they want when it comes to school and other activities. we had discussed that I would have my tubes tied when I had baby #2 as I will be having a ceaser..
But now the time has come that we are going to ob and this is the time we need to discuss with him if I were to have the procedure, we can't go through with it. Although it is unlikely we will have more children unless our finances change, we don't want a procedure to make that decision for us. We have decided that one of us will get the snip when I am 35 whether or not we have more children.
It may seem selfish to others that I don't want more children after 35, and that we want to keep our lifestyle, but we will be happy with our decision that we make together. Also even if we don't plan another child, we will not be disappointed or resentful if one (or more) happen to come along.
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