Hello nurse86,

If you are having doubts about whether you are the right age to have a baby maybe it would be a good idea to wait a few months and see if you feel the same then. The truth is there is no right or wrong age to have children, its just the right stage in your life that you need to consider.

Having a baby creates so many responsibilities and issues as well as positive experiences you will need to deal with. You only need to question yourselves as a couple whether you are ready to take that leap and do it because once you do there is no going back and changing your mind. Would you like to experience other things as a couple before a little one comes along? Just remember that you are still so young and have plenty of time to make this decision.

I am 29 and my partner is 37 so it has taken us a long while to take this step. I am happy that we experienced those times by ourselves but it would also be nice to do it as a family too it just changes the dynamics of things. We are now planning on ttc starting December with a known donor. You asked earlier if using a clinic or home insemination is more successful. Well fresh is always best but it depends on what you are planning to do. Many women fall pregnant in the first couple of cycles using home insemination but if there are fertility issues a clinic is the way to go. We will try home insemination first up and then if after about 4-5 cycles we are not successful we will seek assistance from a clinic. Everybody is different so it is up to you what you do. I have been reading a book i ordered called 'the ultimate guide to pregnancy for lesbians' by rachel pepper. Leasha put me onto it and its great. Very informative and realistic so I would suggest you take a look at it. I thought I knew a fair bit about the whole process but this just puts a whole new light onto it.

Well I hope that i've helped out a little and you get to make the right decision for yourselves. Let me know how you go,

Leanne