Hi

well it is a difficult choice for some and not so hard for others.

for me i would like my son and the next baby to be related - as my g/f and i have 3 children between us from different relationships.

so her two children have the same biological parents -both bio mum and clinic donor.

whereas my son was conceived using a known donor.

both situations present complex problems - we all have different surnames - and it is a little confusing trying to decide whether we use a completely new donor for child # 4 - or the same donor as i did 3 years ago.

this will essentially create - 2 adults with different surnames to each other and the kids, 2 girls from my partner with different surnames to us and my son. then a baby who has a different name entirely. solution???? who knows....

what makes a family - blood, surnames, who knows - i guess really it is the idea that 2 people, or 1 or 3 or more want to have kids together in some way - raising and changing as time evolves......with the common goal of being a family unit.

so i guess my awnser would be - stick with the same donor if you can - try for a known donor if you prefer. otherwise choose an unknown donor and freeze extra straws.

cheers and best of luck,

Levi