My sister diagnosed me as an Aspie just over a year ago. She's right - I was Queen of the Aspies as teen. However, that was "wrong" in my mother's eyes so I learnt how to shut up and suck up the social scene "correctly". It is a case of yes, I can understand and empathise with people - when I can be bothered. Most of the time sociability is too much of an effort.

And yet I have chosen a career where you have to constantly be aware of everyone else and think what they are going to be thinking before them. Well, I do like challenges!

As for my marriage - DH is somewhere on the spectrum too, we just have to (a) be a mindreader and (b) stop the sulks within 2 days when one of us realises the other isn't. I was going to say DH was worse than me, then I forced myself to be objective and realised I'm a little more forgiving of him because I was forced to be a litttle more aware that "Aspie traits are bad traits" (so to speak) as a child so attempt, occasionally, to curb my tendencies. But Keike, reading that pdf made me laugh: imagine two people behaving like that married to each other! It makes for an interesting house. (And now DH is forgiven for not kissing me correctly before I left home on Saturday... just! Yes, I was in a mood with him for 2 days because the kiss was the wrong type of kiss.)