Is this cancer? **TMI**

**AnyDream** · October 29th, 2011, 10:22 PM

Dr Google is BAAAAAAD. See your real doctor for peace of mind, but really, it could be something quite common and not harmful. I mean it's not the kind of conversation you have around the morning tea table at work, is it

so you wouldn't know that it's harmless.

**jackrose** · October 30th, 2011, 11:35 AM

It must be really scary to be worried about something you are not easily able to get answers to. I think you have some great advice here and I am glad it has helped ease your mind a bit before you manage to get in to see your GP.

I just wanted to reassure you about the comments your DD has been making. I certainly believe that sometimes kids can have incredible insight and maybe they can sense things we don't know about but I think there may be may other explanations for her comments. Maybe she is very sensitive and has picked up on how you are feeling and is verbalising it. Maybe she has heard you talk about death and is trying to make sense of it.

I don't know how old your DD is but my nearly 4 year old talks about death a bit! We have visited family graves in the past and I guess she has come across death in stories, I certainly don't shy away from the topic as I see it as a part of life and I have been amazed at how she can happily discuss what will happen when I die! She talks about how she will miss Nana if she dies and how Daddy will have to learn how to make sandwiches properly when I die. A number of times she has told me that she will visit me at "the Gravy" (graveyard

) when I die. It has allowed us to explore lots of feelings and scenarios and I think it is a normal part of development for a child to make sense of things that are hard to comprehend to talk about them a lot, put them into play and revisit the theme in lots of different ways. I am sure this is what is going on with your DD rather than intuition. Don't be afraid to talk about it with her and address her concerns, but make sure you address your concerns too! It must be a terrible feeling to be worried about your health.

**hj1981** · October 30th, 2011, 07:54 PM

det - you have me worried again now! but it is reasuring to hear that your mum has done so well and is now cancer free and has been for 5 years! thats awesome

Marydean - hahaha your right about it not being a convo you can have around the morning tea table, i can't even tell my DH! ringing a doctor tomorrow! hope i can get in.

jackrose - we talk openly about death and dying to DD1 (3yrs), it all started when we had to put our dog down, we just thought it was the right thing to do! and now she knows that things die and go to heaven and when they do you don't get to see them again. It is reasurring to hear that your DD is saying some stuff about it too, maybe it is just a stage they are going through? im glad you think it is part of her development as opposed to an insight. I haven't been able to sleep much these last few days so really am looking forward to making a phone call to see a doctor tomorrow! THANK YOU