Some great suggestions, and well said Ruth

I really oscillate from getting quite stressed about things to just learning to let go. I'm getting better as I age.

I LOVE the phrase: "This too will pass" I've said it more times in BB than I can count.

I imagine lying on my death bed a lot when I am so worked up about an issue that i just can't let it go. I imagine what i would think looking back over my life... "will the fact that DH always left wet towels on the carpet make me wish that i could live a moment longer to make him understand how wrong it is?" Sometimes this actually strengthens my resolve: "will it matter that I don't teach my family to stop wasting water because it's a precious resource that no one should take for granted" "yes yes yes!" I worry a lot about the legacy of the environment we are leaving for our children.

Get in touch with nature. Meditate on a tree. That tree was probably there when you were born and will be there as you die. How big are your problems really? Life will go on. Will it go on in angst or peacefully?

What's more important? Being right or showing that you are the bigger person because you have to strength to say that you are wrong...even if you are not. If you are brave enough to say "Ok, I am wrong here too" that is a challenge to the other person to be humble and admit their mistakes too. I don't want to be remembered as a grumpy, antagonistic, proud, angry person if i was to die tomorrow. I want to be remembered as fair... as easy going.... as nice to be around. That might be the cost of "letting go".

I'm not sure what your DH is like and he may have a role in this too.... but you are your own person and as hard as it may be we shouldn't blame others for our faults. It all starts with you... who knows he might be inspired by your attitude to do some changing too