Hmmm. I don't think never praising is the answer either - when we get ready to go out, it's nice to know the effort is worth it. I was never praised on my looks - but then, I was told how dreadful I looked, I'd rather they be ignored really. But I do agree with praising intellect or *real* achievements rather than just what you're born with.

There's nothing wrong with being attractive (or being ugly) so we can't completely ignore how we look, but we need to all be told there should be more to us than our looks. One reason I love t'internet is because we deal with each other as people, rather than how we look.