We are trying to bring up our 3 sons gender neutral, basing their behaviour and attractions as personality as opposed to gender. All 3 have a very sensitive soft loving side but can be loud and play fight like 3 puppies when they feel the need. I have always steered away from 'boys' clothes as i find the colours bland and dark and the boys when younger and oscar now much preferred to shop in the 'girls' section to buy bright pinks and purples. As for toys we have always had dolls, slings, tea sets, kitchens, trains, cars, lego and playdough as our main attractions. My older boys are the first to object to a toy being sold as a 'girl' or 'boy' toy yelling SEXIST at the TV. I just celebrate their personalities and try not to pigeon hole their behaviour as one sex or another, they are just themselves. My middle son wore a nighty for about 4 years because he preferred it to pajamas, he rode a pink bike (he chose it) and wore pink most every day to kinder. My younger son loves the bright pinks, blues, purples and oranges in clothes so wears those most days. It is just a non event in our home, clothes and what they play with don't determine their sex of define who they are. they are just themselves and we love them.
I think society needs to be aware that by giving allowances based on the sex of the person such as "they are aggressive because they are boys" may send a message that they have an excuse for being aggressive and therefore are not accountable for the consequences. We all, male and females, need to be mindful of our behaviour and keep ourselves in check.
Anyway that's my 2 cents worth.
Beckles