Thanks Sasa, I've tried showering with my one yr old, but she screams until I pick her up...I think she must have got shampoo or soap in her eyes at some stage (or maybe a mouthful of water?) cause she used to enjoy splashing around on the floor. My only other alternative is to have my 4 yr old in there as well, which is fine until the drying and dressing stage, when it becomes a bit challenging getting us all done! I've used the hand wash stuff quite a few times, mostly out and about and for camping, but I find it really drying for my hands.
I don't think picking your child up when they are crying is doing any damage, I think it shows that you care about their feelings. I think it's more a matter of working out ways to prevent the crying in the first place, which is what makes it such a challenge! As they get a bit older, I think there are easier ways to show that some behaviour is not on, but it is hard when they are too young to 'get it'.