HIya sasa,

as you are well aware (from my msn convo's) i also have a little challenger on my hands.
Maybe i can offer suggestions on each issue? just what we do to help make it a little bit easier.

OK:

Nappy changes if its just a wee, i generally do blakes when he is standing up. playing etc.
If its a poopy nappy, i give him his pack of wipes to "help" mummy by holding them. Then i ask him to take one out and wipe his doodle. he actually does this, and has done since he was about myas age.

High chair i am a firm beleiver that our childers give us the signs that they have developed new skills and we jsut have to catch up. And i hope i dont come off bad hun, but i think this is one of those times shes over the high chair so grab a little booster - can get great ones from kmart that strap her in and she will feel like she is part of the dinner table rather then a seperate entity (hope that doesnt sound bad) we are shocking we dont eat tea at the table, so we have a little table for blake, and he is getting the hang of it. Food still ends up on the floor but hes 18 months old, we cant expect too much else

The arvo bottle unfortunitly i have had to teach blake that no matter how loud he screams or how hard he bangs his head on the cupboard door (yep he does this) its not going to make the milk heat up any quicker.

I just pick him up and count down the microwave with him and go "beep beep beep beep" now he runs around the kitchen making this cute beeping noise maybe make up a "game" like that to distract her from the anticipation of it.

And for you missy... your doing wonderfully! if you need a break, msn me and we can have a cuppa!! you need respite as well deary