Im off to Melbourne this weekend....I should be happy to be going..have a break with J man and the amigo's but I know our parenting will be put under the microscope as J man's brother, wife and 3 children will also be there.

We believe in allowing our children to lead the way for themselves...eg I never times my childrens feed's as babies, I let them tell me. We allow them to choose thier clothing as they are the one's who have to wear it, we speak our mind in our house...if something bothers them we are open enough to say what it is and how to fix it together. I like letting my children explore whats around them...eg if we are at the beach and they get wet so be it and if they want to crawl into our bed and sleep cuddled into us then im more then happy to snuggle

BIL well more wife clock work feed's her babies....no messy hands....everything sterile and disposable (doesnt help that BIL is a nurse). No I see the 'looks' when we get our cloth out...I never say YOU SHOULD USE THEM. NEVER! I keep my parenting choices to myself. I like to have my babies close so have had a few carriers over the years...yes more looks. I know that when bedtime comes....Mini me and Tank will freak and I'll be cuddling with them to hear whispers.

It makes me so sad and depressed I get told all the time what I should be doing....get questioned if I ask or try to disipline my children in my why what they have done wrong infront of them (a big no no for J man and me). I get told what medicine to shove down their throats and petrolyem based nappy rash cream to use when Im not interested yet I am the arse if I stand up and say dont make me feel bad.

One SIL is pg with her first and is a pead's nurse so as soon as you mention something she knows exactly what your takking about and how to fix it and proceed's to tell ME how I should be doing things

How do you deal with the narkyness? The non support...I really feel very heavy hearted atm....