Liz, I love the quote in your signature . I think that would make a great reply to the rod-for-your- backers!!
Why does it seem to be the "done" thing to try and MAKE babies conform for adult convenience.
Which reminds me of how I got my Dh to really accept all that we are doing (he has been very sceptical mostly because of outsidde "advice"). He told me not long ago that the one thing that clicked for him, out of all the reasonings I gave for co-cleeping, was that our baby will only be a baby ONCE and for such a short time in the scheme of ours and his lifetime. Why would or should we start inforcing adult rules on such an inoccent and not only deprive him of our presence at night but also ourselves the joy of snuggling next to a sleeping baby. We can NEVER EVER get this time back again. Before we all know i, our "babies" will be telling us to get out of their space and leave them alone!