This is all so great - i feel MUCH less alone. DP is VERY supportive of how i parent because he knows i think ahead and love Smee so much (he always says he lopves watching us play together and how close we are) but she's not his, kwim? So though i know i have his backing, it's like, XP is her other parent. I think when DP and i live together and have some kidlets things will be easier as it'll just be more clear to XP and DD that we do things a certain way.

But then, will she be damaged by him being so different to me? I worry about that too. How confusing it'll be... I'm kind of hoping he'll be more on board as she grows.

Bx