It seems totally ridiculous to be asking it like this, because DS is nearly 3.5 years old.

But he will NOT go to bed without someone there with him. Of course I totally blame myself because I let him cry it out for a few weeks when he was 2 months old because I didn't know any better.

And now - he still won't "self-settle" at night.

He doesn't have a day nap anymore, so he is extremely tired by the end of the day, but it still takes him over an hour to fall asleep. DH is getting really really fed up, because he doesn't get home till 6, then by the time we do dinner, bath, and then he puts the girls to bed (who by the way, both get themselves off to sleep fine) - he then has to spend an hour or an hour and a half trying to get DS to go to sleep.

I'm needing some suggestions because he just will NOT go to sleep on his own. He has DD2 sharing his room so he's not alone anyway, he has a lamp that is on next to his bed because he can't sleep without it on, and he has music playing.

I need some suggestions before DH cracks it big time!! Oh, and I don't put DS to bed because he likes his "daddy time" since he never sees DH at all during the day. DH also spends time playing with DS from the time he gets home, but one on one time from 7.30pm to his bedtime (which is around 8pm, but usually ends up being 8.30)