Hard to know where to start. I really did not have much idea on parenting style at all, all I knew was that I did not agree with controlling and was never going to co-sleep. Well one thing has changed I now co-sleep most of the time.

I was a mess when bub's arrived, I was exhausted and depressed. I was to easily influenced by the MCHN's and watching way to much Baby Whisperer and beginning to feel like a bad accidental parent. Everything I was doing was going against what I was hearing so I decided to to something about it. I tried to stop feeding bubs to sleep. It was heart breaking I would hold her, pat and shush, like I saw on the Baby whisperer, whilst she cried terribly (I still cry myself when I remember it). All under the delusion that is was not controlled crying (I now know it was a form of it) and that her feeding to sleep was a bad, bad thing. Many a time I would give in and feed her.

Finally I posted on BB about my "problem". Replies from Kelly, Pinky and some other wonderful BB gals made me realise I was listening to the "should brigade" too much and not to myself and Maggie.

I am glad there is such a thing as Gentle Parenting. I do remember reading about the different parenting styles. I my heart I knew I was not a conventional parent, but the way attachment parenting was described, I thought it was a bit too extreme for me.

Still have a long way to go, it can be very hard at times, but at least I have BB to help me through it. That reminds me, I should really sell my Baby Whisperer books, they have become dust collectors.