Hate to break it to you, Hoobley, but you are an Attachment Parent But, no, you don't have to call yourself anything. I use the term only very rarely, if someone asks specifically what orientation I have for parenting (which is next to never).
AP does NOT mean that you are a Laissez Affair parent, where anything goes. In fact, AP kids tend to have more awareness of social mores because they are not separated from their parents and their daily, social interactions
Gentle Parenting is not, by any means 'no parenting'. It is absolutely about respect for yourself and your kids