Sneakysparkle, it makes lot of sense not to pick battles at dinner. Do you think it's ok to let him have other foods after he refuses dinner? This is what we *were* doing, but then we noticed that if he didn't like what was on offer for dinner, he would just refuse it knowing that there were other things to eat. He even started refusing dinners that he had previously eaten quite well. I have made sure that the other foods he can have aren't anything special but are at least somewhat nutritious (usually yogurt, fruit or a sandwich) but he does like all of those foods and they're obviously more appealing than dinner to him at the moment. Maybe we need to make the foods he's allowed to have after dinner even more plain & less appealing, like plain dry biscuits?? But if he continues to forgo dinner, that wont be a good long term approach. Would love to know other people's dinner 'policies' (for want of a better word)....

I *love* the dinner at lunch idea. I can't see him eating veggies at lunch, but I'll give it a go & see what happens.

Nelle, you're right.. both of those incidences have been later in the day. That's probably what has brought on the meltdowns rather than his inability to accept consequences.. I don't know why that didn't dawn on me earlier!!