Homebirth General Discussion #3

[onthefly]

Tegam, I get what you're saying. I kinda understand the midwife's position, but in saying that I agree that she is definitely not the person you want supporting you anyway.

FWIW (and bearing in mind the fact that I really have no idea what it's like to be in this situation), I would hire a midwife. She's meant to be there as a safety net - only just in case. Even if she makes it to the birth, she probably wouldn't do much anyway, you know? At least if she attempts to get there as quickly as possible (and what you describe from teh last birth doesn't really sound good enough) then she'd be there as your safety net.
But of course you need someone you can trust to really listen to you and give you what you need.

[Arimeh]

Hi everyone

Tegam - I agree with what everyone else has said - everyone just expresses it much better than I ever could.. I hope you come up with a solution that you are comfortable with

I spoke to my mum today, and told her that I was getting the $hits with not knowing where I was going to birth this baby because I couldn't mentally prepare myself for it, if I couldn't visualise the room or place where I was going to birth. She asked me what I meant, and I said, well it will either be at Selangor or in my loungeroom - and she was like - "WHAT!?! Oh no, I don't like that idea at all Melina... what if something goes wrong... "

And I'm like - its ok mum. And she was like - noo go to the birth centre at least, then you are close to the hospital. And I said "mum, it takes half an hour to get into hospital from here (maximum). It takes the hospital half an hour to prep for a c-section, so even if I was at the hospital OR at the birth centre near the hospital, it would still take half an hour before a c-section could be performed. And that would be the ONLY reason I would be going into the hospital, if an emergency c-section was needed."

I think I got my point across without being too rude yes? LOL She didn't say much about it after that.. I think she knows that I'll just do what I'm going to do anyway.

[Arimeh]

Bahhh double post!!!

[Cassius2]

Arimeh: well at least your mum showed her concerns now...my mum waited until the day before Marta was born...and she was my birth support !

Meow: are you a FB fan of MN? i just put some pics up on their fan photos!

[meow]

I agree- best to know your Mum's birth fears now really AE. Possibly changes your perspective on having her as birth support?

I am a fan of MN cassius and your photos just came up in my newsfeed.. they are gorgeous photos!

I just had my birth plan meeting with my MWs and H. It went really well. But now I have to write my hospital birth plan JIC. So unmotivated! I had a great day today... had a second adjustment with the chiro and I'm feeling pretty well. Also had an appointment with a homeopeth and she was fab- loved her! Wetalked for ages about my last birth, postnatal, this pregnancy etc and she gave me something to take now and I'll go back next week to get a birth kit of remedies from her. I've never seen a homeopath before and it was such a lovely, nurturing experience

[Cassius2]

oh meow that all sounds so exciting! i can't believe how close it all is now!!!

[Arimeh]

I agree- best to know your Mum's birth fears now really AE. Possibly changes your perspective on having her as birth support?

Nah, mum would only be my birth support if I went back to queensland and birthed at Selangor. So she'd be right - I'd be safe cos I'd be in a hospital

[Tegam]

So had a MW appointment a week friday ago, my belly only measuring 22weeks. So had to have a scan. Scan showed low fluid. Had Hospital OB appointment today and it went to the **** rather quickly

Apparently fluid levels are meant to be from 25-7 i think the 25 starts at 20 weeks and you normally lose numbers as baby gets bigger. So 7 would be the total bottem number for someone say 40-42weeks... Im sitting on 8

So what does this mean. Scan next monday and see how baby is holding up. Worst case Baby born then! Best case fluid stays the same,,,,they might let me go to 34-36weeks. Fluid builds up again (very rare but not out of the question) Induced at 36weeks.

So really in a sad mood. Hoping its all resolved next monday on the next scan. Will go back and see OB in the city after scan and decide what my action plan is.

Feeling rather down and thinking this all means bye bye to homebirthing this one. So unfair when i know what the perfect birth feels like

[Arimeh]

Ahhhh crap Tegam I'm so sorry