Homebirth General Discussion #4

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this is what i struggled with too. i was worried that i had set the bar high and would set myself up to be disappointed. but i think the beauty of HB is that even when things dont go to plan you are still surrounded by beautiful gorgeous midwives that love you and your family and want the very best for all of you. so i focused my 'dreaming' of the birth not as expectation as such but as that, a dream, something positive to aim for ITMS.

You are amazing Cassius, so well said

[Arimeh]

It's funny but the closer I get to d day, the more I worry about screaming in front of my midwife and losing control, because of what happened last time. I spoke to her yesterday about it and she just looked me in the eye and said "Mel, I've only ever had 1 lady that made no noise and we didn't like it cos we couldn't tell what stage of labour she was at. Screaming is not losing control,it's being in control, the way that your body is supposed to handle labour".

I feel better now. Just wish I knew what was keeping her from making an appearance! I'm so cranky and irritable lately, everything DH does gets on my nerves and I spend a lot of time being peeved and venting to my mum lol!!

I just wanna know what I'm doing wrong to not be going into labour....

[Cassius2]

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I just wanna know what I'm doing wrong to not be going into labour....

you are doing nothing wrong gorgeous woman! i can't comment on the perspective of a "post-dater" but seriously babe, your bubbas want to have that extra time with you xx have you tried 'talking' to your little one and telling them how beautiful they are and how beautiful it is to be born? i did this with Marta. a bit of background: i was having a rather horrendous time with my mum (she was at ours to look after DD1 while i was in labour but is from interstate so was there a couple of weeks before Marta arrived...) and i remember that i had stalled an earlier attempt by marta to come. i was so fraught and hung up on it all being 'perfect' (perfect birthing space, emotional charge of the house etc etc) that i *think* i kinda scared her off and made her (marta that is lol) think that mebbe ol' womb was a better place to hang for awhile lol. in the end i just apologised in a way to her one night in the shower and told her that i love her and that it is ok and that our birth journey will be awesome and full of love and that she is welcome despite my mood that i will love and fiercely protect her come what may. i dont know if she got any of that but man it made me feel better bahahaha!

Meow: so cool to see you in here babe! i was hanging out at this new cafe i found and they have a big orange wall and i thought of you

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It's funny but the closer I get to d day, the more I worry about screaming in front of my midwife and losing control, because of what happened last time. I spoke to her yesterday about it and she just looked me in the eye and said "Mel, I've only ever had 1 lady that made no noise and we didn't like it cos we couldn't tell what stage of labour she was at. Screaming is not losing control,it's being in control, the way that your body is supposed to handle labour".

I feel better now. Just wish I knew what was keeping her from making an appearance! I'm so cranky and irritable lately, everything DH does gets on my nerves and I spend a lot of time being peeved and venting to my mum lol!!

I just wanna know what I'm doing wrong to not be going into labour....

Oh i missed this, sorry love. I really dont have many words of wisdom. Just be yourself. You dont owe it to anyone to be quiet/loud/polite or rude! This is your journey and you will do it perfectly for you!

If it helps i have always been quiet and in control of birth........then yelled like a teenager with Molly

Cant wait to see you BA and hey havent all yours been late? So infact your not due yet? Be strong!

[onthefly]

Have you found the BA tegam?

[Tegam]

WHAT.... Im off NOW


I am so slow..... Thanks MadB

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THERE WERE TWO BAs

Congratulations girls..... Such exciting news!

Why havent you written your birth stories yet???

[Cassius2]

CONGRATULATIONS BEAUTIFUL BIRTHING WOMEN!!
Welcome to the world little bubba girl and baby James!!!!!!!

[meow]

I was just pondering my HB the other day and wondering "was it amazing?" And I decided it was just plain old normal. A HB is just normal birth, the way your birth is going to be. And that is a very beautiful thing. Relax, go with the ride, it will be perfect because it will be yours and just as it's supossed to be.

[Tegam]

I was just pondering my HB the other day and wondering "was it amazing?" And I decided it was just plain old normal. A HB is just normal birth, the way your birth is going to be. And that is a very beautiful thing. Relax, go with the ride, it will be perfect because it will be yours and just as it's supossed to be.

Gee there really are some wise women in this thread!

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............i wanna have another baby................... all this talk of HB!

[Cassius2]

............i wanna have another baby................... all this talk of HB!

haha! me too! DH is already clucky