Eutra: i had this happen with friends from MG, they were all well-meaning, but it hurt that they showed such little faith and almost seemed certain that things would go wrong. i had one girl tell me not to tellher anything until it was all over as she 'was so worried' . i was so distressed by the cruelty (even though she would be mortified that that was how it came across).

thankfully they all got it out of their systems really early on and then proceeded to not really show much interest and treated me like any other pregnant chick in the group (we were all pg at one point lol).

FWIW, i think that ultimately you may have made the right decision you just cannot have that kind of mental/emotional energy in the room at time of birth (and that goes for whether you are birthing at home or at hospital).