Those I've told have automatically assumed bubbers to hopefully be was a accident and have taken "pity" on me. I really feel the need to go along with it and tell people it was a bit of an opps or else the judgement that follows knowing we were just "going with the flow" (if it happened yay, if it didn't then weren't too upset) is really hurtful. I feel ashamed to feel I have to say bubs was an opps, but the lack of support that follows hurts even more than the pity support. I know if they can't accept it then I shouldn't be friends with them, but I'm running out of friends and support networks rather quickly.

One of the downsides to younger-mumdom I guess. Anyone else have this dilema?

CelticMoon