Saying anything other than 'Congratulations how have you been keeping?' is really rude. it's interesting that so many young mums get this comment. We have friends this has happened to but they are older (38 and 41) but hadn't been together long.
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Saying anything other than 'Congratulations how have you been keeping?' is really rude. it's interesting that so many young mums get this comment. We have friends this has happened to but they are older (38 and 41) but hadn't been together long.
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Well firstly congratulations!
Secondly,
I hate it when people offer unwanted opinions. Way too many people do this, especially in regards to others' parenting, in my opinion!!
I have four kids.. None of them were specifically planned.
My second one was a big shock. She is only 13 months younger than the first - I got pg when baby #1 was only 5 months old. I would NEVER say she was a mistake. She wasn't. I was never unhappy about her. I do, however, tell people she was a 'surprise' and a nice one at that! She is so perfect.
Anyway, maybe if you tell people that you were waiting to get PG but not actively over trying but at the same time tell them how excited you both are to be pregnant, they may get the clue? I'm sorry you are dealing with such negative responses at a time that should be so happy for you!
Lucy in the sky with diamonds.
Congratulations!
Hey I got the same and I am 33!!!!!
When they looked shocked just say - we want two more after this one and then we will stop.
I saw a family on the weekend with 6 kids - I noticed them because the mother yelled out loudly - yes there are 6 and we still haven't finished! Obviously she had yet anoher person comment on the size of her brood....
People are dumb, regardless of your age. I'm sorry your friends suck though.
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LOL - we just tell people "what can we say, we're breeders!"
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I feel for you CelticMoon, I hadn't thought about it being a rude question! I have some people ask me if it took us long to fall pregnant people I don't even know very well. I think that is my own private information and it has nothing to do with the outcome! I don't think 20 is too young to have a baby. If you are happy and you know that you can give it all the love in the world then that is all that matters! Just tell people that your happily pregnant and you both can't wait to have the baby. Im sure your friends will come round when they see how happy you both are!
Enjoy your pregnancy!
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We are both 21 now, our DS was planned, DF turned 21 b4 he was born, me after he was born, it was the best decicion we ever made, i love our little man, I'd rather deal with the screaming and no sleep now then being older. It's great, everyone think he was an oops but whats it to them anyway.
I get the same too - I am youngish and bub #1 was a 'suprise', but we decided that we had one, may as well have two, and planned our second bub 2 years later.
But people just assumed that we had another 'accident'and somehow I felt too embarrassed to actually say: "No, this was planned!" Like it was wrong somehow because I was still fairly young?!
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