Hi,

I don't have this issue, so am offering advice totally from an outside perspective.

I believe communication is the best way to approach situations like this. Does your DH really know how you feel about him using or being registered on these sites? How direct have you been in expressing this to him in the past? Perhaps there are issues in your relationship, from his point of view, that he hasn't expressed to you and this is his way of dealing with them? (ie: loss of babies etc...) You need to discuss (I won't use the word confront at the moment) what you have found with him again and give him a chance to offer an explanation and perhaps discuss counselling as an option for him or as a couple.

I wish you all the best and hope that you can work through this with your DH. Best of luck.